How to Deal with Stupid Frustrations & Distractions

Last week, I had the privilege of attending the Dream Center Conference. Here is my recap of the conference. One of my favorite sessions was Bishop Dale Bronner. In his session, he said something that I thought was extremely significant. He said, “The devil is really after your hope. If he can get your hope, you won’t be able to carry out what God put in your heart.”

He went on to say that one of the main way he steals our hope is by frustrating us. If he can frustrate us, we won’t be able to focus on God or on what we’re supposed to be focused on.

He said that’s why people talk trash in sports. If they can get their opponent frustrated, they will be distracted and they won’t be able to focus on their strategy or what they’re supposed to be doing. I saw that happen several times in the Super Bowl on Sunday.

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2016 Dream Center Conference Recap

My Highlights from the 2016 Dream Center Conference

Laura and I had the opportunity to attend the Dream Center Conference in LA. It was an incredible experience. We’re still processing everything God did in our hearts. In this post, I share my key takeaways from each session. I hope that they’ll add value to your life! Enjoy!

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Session 1: Matthew Barnett 

  • You’re on act of faith away from seeing the greatest miracle in your city!
  • Response to criticism: thank you, I’m just trying to get better every day!
  • Learn to see a food truck when your heart is broken!
  • You don’t know what God has in your heart…He will not only show your gifts you never knew you had, but he will cause you to love people you never knew you loved and give you ways to reach them!
  • Sometimes the only pro you have is asking, “What if?”

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Make Your Own Legacy

Stop Living in the Shadow of Other's Expectations

Last month, Laura and I went to see the movie Creed. My favorite part in the movie was when Creed is preparing for his big fight. Up to this point, the entire movie is about him trying to get out of the shadow of his father’s legacy. Everybody’s compares him to his father. He feels so much pressure to live up to who his father was and what his father did.

As he is in the locker room preparing for the fight, Rocky gives him a card that is from his mom. He opened the letter and it simply said, “Make your own legacy. Love, Mom.” When I saw that, I started tearing up (I’m sensitive!). There is nothing like the advice of a mom!

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I think we can all find ourselves where Creed found himself. We desperately want to leave our own legacy, but we constantly feel pressure from the world to live in everybody else’s shadow. We feel that we have to live up to the standards everybody has for us or that we at least the standards we think they have for us.

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How to Stop Having to Start Over Every Year on Your Goals

My entire life, I’ve struggled with my weight. A few years ago, with the help of Beachbody, I was able to figure out a sustainable way to stay in great shape. I recorded a podcast about what I learned that you can listen to here.

To summarize, I learned that the key to losing weight was consistent exercise and consistently tracking what I was eating (and continually learning how to make healthier decisions when it comes to what I was eating.)

However, over the last 4-5 years, I’ve noticed a pattern. From January through August, I usually do a great job of being consistent in exercise and tracking what I eat. As a result, I get the results that I want, which is great, except that from September through December, I usually stop being as consistent with my exercise and I stop tracking what I eat. The result? I gain 5-10 pounds and by January 1st feel horrible and have to start all over again. Have you been there?

Maybe it’s not weight loss for you, maybe it’s something else:

  • Maybe you kill it in sales the first half of the year because you followed a daily routine of making calls, follow-ups, etc. but in the second half of the year, you start to coast and find yourself having to start all over.
  • Maybe you were very intentional with dating your spouse and as a result, your marriage was great, so you started taking the date nights it took to make a great marriage for granted and start skipping them.
  • Maybe you were intentional with using a budget for your finances and you finally got everything in order, so you started taking being wise with your finances for granted, and started treating yourself and sinking back into old habits.

Why does this happen? Because too often, when we start getting the results we want, we start to take the systems and routines that got the results we wanted for granted.

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7 Steps to Help You Reach Your Goals in 2016

Last week, I shared my 2016 goals. I love setting goals. Why? Because it’s a lot fun to dream about what’s possible in the future.

However, if you’re actually going to achieve your goals, you have to move beyond the excitement of having goals to the discipline of creating a plan and executing it.

In my experience, I have found that if you want to achieve your goals, you must do the following:

1.) Reverse Engineer Your Goals – Once you have a goal, it’s absolutely essential for you to reverse engineer your goals. Reverse engineering is when you make a list of everything you need to do in order to accomplish that goal. Take each goal that you set and write it on the top of a piece of paper. On the paper, start making a to-do list of every single action you need to take in order to accomplish that goal. Once you have all the action items, put them in the order they need to happen in and go to work on them!

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