Success: What it is and What It’s Not

Learn to correctly define success in your life.

I’ve found this to be true: If you want to feel successful, make sure you have the correct view of what success is. I wrote a post about this a while back called, “Success doesn’t feel like success“.

I don’t know about you, but I can find myself getting very discouraged about my life when I view success improperly.

However, I have found that when I evaluate my life in the proper view of success, I realize that I am already more successful than I could ever imagine. 

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The other day I did an exercise in my journal that I want to encourage you to do as well. I made two lists:


Episode #72: Jim Shorkey Jr., Former Owner of Jim Shorkey Automotive

An Interview with Jim Shorker, Former Owner of Jim Shorkey Automotive

Welcome to Episode #72 of the Learning to Lead podcast. This episode is a part of our interview series, in which I interview leaders in order to extract their best leadership lessons and tips. In this episode, I interviewed Jim Shorkey Jr., Former Owner of Shorkey Automotive.

Before I introduce Jim, I just want to thank you for listening to this podcast. I hope it adds value to your life. If you have enjoyed it, I’d like to ask you for a favor, could you go to iTunes and subscribe to this podcast, leave a rating, and leave a review for this podcast. Doing so will help grow the podcast’s audience! Thanks!

I originally got to know Jim through a mutual friend. Up until I met him, I only knew him through his company’s radio commercials! When I met Jim, I learned that he had recently handed over his company to his kids. Outside of mentoring, he is completely hands off of the business.

He has recently started his own coaching and mentoring business called, Results From Thinking. If you listen to this podcast and would be interested in having Jim coach you, you can contact him via e-mail at:

Jim is one of the most structured and disciplined I have ever met. The results he’s delivered are proof of that. In this interview, I believe you’ll get fired up about creating a plan for your life and putting the processes needed in order to execute those plans. Enjoy the interview!

Episode #72: Jim Shorkey Jr. 




Catching Character

How to become a Man or Woman of Godly Character

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how someone grows their character. The question I’ve been asking is: How does one go from someone whose character allows them to lie, steal, cheat, etc. to someone whose character no longer allows them to do those things? 

If you would have asked me that a few months ago, I would have simply told you that in order to grow your character, you need to accept Christ into your life and start pursuing a relationship with God. In that pursuit, God will grow your character. He will start to shape and mold you into a Godly man or woman.

While that is absolutely true, I want to dig a bit deeper into how that actually happens. In my interview with Gerald Brooks, I asked him, “How does someone grow their character?” He said, “Just as leadership is more caught than taught, character is more caught than taught. You need to get around people who have Godly character that you can catch their character.”

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When he said that a light bulb went off in my head. If someone’s character allows them to lie, cheat, steal, etc. it’s probably because they are surrounded by people whose character allows them to lie, cheat, and steal. 


Finding Your Paul [Podcast]

How to Find Spiritual Mentors and Make the Most of Your Relationship with Them

This episode comes from a talk I gave at Slipper Rock Universities’s CRU ministry. It’s about finding and cultivating mentor relationships in your life. I believe that finding and developing relationships with mentors is one of the most important things we can do to help us grow to our full potential. I would not be where I am or who I am if it weren’t for the mentors in my life. My prayer is that you’ll listen to this message and start pursuing mentorship in your life. If you do, I believe God will bring people into your life that will change your life forever. As Craig Groeschel said, “I believe that you may be one relationship away from changing the course of your destiny.” The notes from the talk are below. Enjoy the talk!

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Finding your Paul: Finding Spiritual Mentors who can Take You Further, Faster


Competition, Comparison, and Contentment

6 Steps to Help You Overcome Comparing and Competing

Not that we dare to classify or compare ourselves with some of those who are commending themselves. But when they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding. 13 But we will not boast beyond limits, but will boast only with regard to the area of influence God assigned to us, to reach even to you. -2 Corinthians 10:12-13

Rick Warren recently tweeted this statement: “After 45 years in ministry I don’t have a competitive bone in my body left.”

As I read that, I had two thoughts: 1.) Of course you don’t, you are Rick Warren! haha! (joke) 2.) I want to get to that place in my life.

While I feel like I’ve grown immensely in this area in the last 5 years, there are still times where I allow comparison and competition into my life. When it does, I identify it and process it through the following thoughts:

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1.) I Identify the Real Fear in Comparison and Competition – As I’ve processed this over the years, I’ve found that when I get jealous, it’s not because I wish God would be using me in the same way He is using someone else, in fact, I am usually thrilled and filled with joy when I see God use others in significant ways. The real fear that accompanies comparison and competition is the fear that everyone else will get to be used by God in a significant way except for me. That is simply a lie. How do you combat that? Simple: