Doug Smith LiveDoug Smith Live http://dougsmithlive.com Grow. Lead. Live. Tue, 03 Mar 2015 11:31:23 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.1 7 Amazing Things About being a Christian that I take for Granted http://dougsmithlive.com/tent-granted-christian/ http://dougsmithlive.com/tent-granted-christian/#respond Tue, 03 Mar 2015 11:29:17 +0000 http://dougsmithlive.com/?p=9863 I have lived half of my life for God and half of my life not living for God and there is no comparison! However, after 12 years of walking with God consistently, I have found that there are things that are available to us as Christians that if I am not careful, I can take […]

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I have lived half of my life for God and half of my life not living for God and there is no comparison!

However, after 12 years of walking with God consistently, I have found that there are things that are available to us as Christians that if I am not careful, I can take for granted.

Sadly, people who are not walking with God and even some who do, have absolutely no idea what’s available to them in Christ.

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Here are 7 amazing things that are available to every child of God on the planet that we should never take for granted:

1.) Salvation – Christ died for me - Romans 5:8 say, “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” While I had absolutely nothing to offer God, He sent His son to die for me so that I could have all my sin erased and have a relationship with God.

The best part about this is that God accepts us as we are. You don’t have to be good enough to earn a relationship with God. In fact, you can’t be good enough to earn a relationship with Him. Too many people think they have to get their lives right, then they can have a relationship with God. The opposite is true, you come to God as you are and then you learn that He loves you enough to not let you stay where you are. Then He gives you the grace, power, and courage to get your life together.

2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” 

When I got saved by making Jesus the Lord of my life, my life changed forever. I literally started living a brand new life. It has been the most incredible journey of my life. My prayer is that I’ll never take the fact that Christ died for me for granted. The great part is, He didn’t just die for me, He died for you too! If you’ve never made Jesus the Lord of your life, but would like to or would like to discuss it, please e-mail me at douglasasmith53@gmail.com.

2.) God gave us the Bible – 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.”

God not only died for us, He gave us a book that teaches us how to live. It doesn’t get any better than that! I can open the Bible anytime I want to and as a Christian, it will come alive to me and transform the way I think and live.

3.) We can be led by God – Romans 8:14 says, “As many that are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.” In other words, if you are a child of God, you can hear from God. I determined a long time ago that if I could hear from God, I will have it made! It’s been 12 years walking with God and I can tell you for a fact, because I can be led by God, I’ve had it made!

4.) We have the Holy Spirit – In John 16:5-15, Jesus said it’s better that He leaves so that God can give us the Holy Spirit. He then goes on to lists some of the things the Holy Spirit does in our lives. Here is a great list I found online of 50 things the Holy Spirit does.

5.) God helps me Grow to my Maximum Potential – In Hebrews 12:5-12, the Bible tells us that God loves us so much that He will discipline us in order to shape and form our character so we can become the men and women He created to be. Nobody knows how much potential you have more than God does. Nobody knows what issues you need to work on right now more than God does! Nobody knows who you are going to have to become to do what you’ll be doing in 20 years more than God does. I’m so glad I don’t have to come up with my own plan for growing my potential. God gives me the plan and I simply have to work it.

6.) God gave us a Community to Do Life With – God gave us an entire community of believers in the local church and the body of Christ to do life with! In Acts 2:42-47, the Bible gives us a picture of what the body of Christ and the local church should look like when it’s running on all cylinders.

As Reid Carpenter says, “In life, it doesn’t get any better than having magnificent friends, pursuing a magnificent vision, for a magnificent God! There is No better juice than that!”

7.) God gives us a Purpose bigger than Ourselves – I’m convinced that there is not a more exciting life you can live than the life God has planned for you! God created you for a purpose. He gave you gifts and talents that He wants you to grow and develop so He can use you to make a difference in this world. Knowing that God has a plan and a purpose for my life causes me to get out of bed everyday excited that I get to be a part of what He is doing in the world.

In summary, God has given us everything we need to live our best lives, do what we are called to do, and to have a great relationship with Him. My prayer is that we will never take for granted all the wonderful things He’s provided for us.

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Get in the Room Where Decisions are Made http://dougsmithlive.com/leadership-decisions/ http://dougsmithlive.com/leadership-decisions/#respond Mon, 02 Mar 2015 14:05:05 +0000 http://dougsmithlive.com/?p=9861 Today, I am blogging about one lessons that I learned at the Jubilee Professional conference. One of the speakers was Michael Lindsay, President of Gordon College. He shared a few principles from his new book, “View from the Top“. One of the principles he taught was, “To chart the future, you must be in the […]

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Today, I am blogging about one lessons that I learned at the Jubilee Professional conference. One of the speakers was Michael Lindsay, President of Gordon College. He shared a few principles from his new book, “View from the Top“.

One of the principles he taught was, “To chart the future, you must be in the room.”  He went on to say, “That is why you should aspire to be in positions of leadership. If you want to influence the common good, you have to be in the room where decisions are made.

Nelson Mandela once said, “There is no passion to be found in playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”  I believe way too many of us are living lives less than the ones we are capable of living.

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I believe that as Christians, we should be the most influential leaders on the planet. We should be helping shape our families, workplaces, cities, nations, and ultimately the world. However, that can only happen if we are continually in the room where decisions are made.

So, how do we get in the room where decisions are made?

Simple, do everything you can every day to: 

  • Grow to your maximum potential
  • Be teachable
  • Be humble
  • Become self-aware
  • Develop your character
  • Spend time with people who are already in the room! Learn from them!
  • Be led by God
  • Get mentored by leaders who are doing what you’d like to be doing
  • Help your organization be all it can be
  • Add value to your bosses and coworkers
  • Serve your community
  • Network with leaders in your city
  • Show up to places where decisions are being made

If you will do these things on a consistent basis, you will eventually find yourself in the room where decisions are made.

When you do find yourself in that room, remember why you wanted to be in that room in the first place (Click the link to read my post on this topic).

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be in the room as long as your motives are to influence the common good.

Questions: 

  • What are you doing today to ensure you will be in the room that decisions are made tomorrow?
  • If you are in the room where decisions are made, how are you using your platform to influence the common good?

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Episode #55: How to Build Your Platform http://dougsmithlive.com/episode55/ http://dougsmithlive.com/episode55/#respond Fri, 27 Feb 2015 11:32:34 +0000 http://dougsmithlive.com/?p=9880 In this podcast, I will cover: Why you should build a platform, the most important part of building your platform, how to build your platform, and things to remember while you are growing your platform. My prayer for you as you listen to this is that you would get a vision for the difference you […]

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In this podcast, I will cover: Why you should build a platform, the most important part of building your platform, how to build your platform, and things to remember while you are growing your platform. My prayer for you as you listen to this is that you would get a vision for the difference you can make in the world through your unique platform and then do something about it! IMG_8818

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Episode: #55 – Building Your Platform 

Notes: 

Resource: Michael Hyatt  http://michaelhyatt.com/platform 

So, Why You Should Want to Build a Platform? 

1.) Because people with platforms have the capability to Change the World: 

The total number of philosophers who are significant in world history is approximately 135-500. A smaller number if we take only the major figures in each world civilization. Even if we add minor figures of all of the networks in all of civilization the total is about 2,700 people. In summary: Between 150-3,000 people, a tiny fraction of roughly the 23 billion people living between 600 BC and 1900 framed the major contours of all world civilizations.” -Jim Collins

There are 7 major areas of influence in our lives today:

1.) Religion

2.) Economics

3.) Government

4.) Family

5. ) Media

6.) Education

7.) Sports

2.) Building a Platform will open doors for unique opportunities for you 

“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” -Dr. Seuss

3.) Platforms Allow You to Speak Up for People Who Can’t Speak up for themselves 

Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; ensure justice for those being crushed.Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless and see that they get justice. Proverbs 31:8-9

The Most Important Factor in Building Your Platform: Making sure your character will sustain your platform!

“As many people as you can help, that’s how many people you can hurt.” -Joyce Meyer

Prayer: Develop me as quickly and as solidly as possible!

“If you want a better world, composed of better nations, inhabited by better states, filled with better counties, made up of better cities, compromised of better neighborhoods, illuminated by better churches, populated by better families, then you’ll have to start by becoming a better person.” -Tony Evans

Ways to Start Building a Platform:

Become Someone Worth Following – If you wouldn’t follow yourself, why should anyone else?

Add value to people!

Zig Ziglar said, “You can get everything you want in life, IF you just help enough other people get what they want.”

Become an All Star Where You are At 

Create Something

Start a Podcast

Use Social Media for a Purpose

Start a Blog

Start a Business/Non-Profit 

Serve Somewhere 

Mentor Someone

Start a Small Group

Network, Network, Network 

What Does it Takes to Build a Platform? Courage 

“Somebody somewhere is waiting on you to become what you were destined to be! Keep growing forward! -Chris Hogan! 

Using your gifts and talents to build a platform is servant leadership!

A few Things to Remember Once You Start Building Your Platform

Remember Who is Ultimately Responsible for Your Platform

Rick Warren said, “Be faithful where you are, God is responsible for how big your influence will get.

Mark Batterson said, “The impact God has planned for us doesn’t occur when we’re pursuing impact. It occurs when we’re pursuing God.”

The Most Significant Factor in Building Your Platform: Faithfulness

“If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities.” Luke 16:10

Remember: All Large Platforms Started Small

10 Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin.” -Zachariah 5:10

“This is an inscription on the tomb of an Anglican Bishop in Westminster Abbey:“When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser I discovered the world would not change –So I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country, but it too seemed immovable.As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it. And now I realize as I lie on my deathbed, if I had only changed myself first, then by example I might have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement I would then have been able to better my country, And who knows, I might have even changed the world.”

In the beginning, you’re not as bad as people think, but if you do things right, in the end, you’re not as good as people think. -John Maxwell

When You Get a Platform, Remember Why You are on Stage

Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; ensure justice for those being crushed.Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless and see that they get justice. Proverbs 31:8-9

“Somebody somewhere is waiting on you to become what you were destined to be! Keep growing forward! -Chris Hogan! 

Stop waiting. Act. Do something! The world is waiting for you.

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Will You Help Me Raise $5,000 for the Homeless? http://dougsmithlive.com/raise-5000-homeless/ http://dougsmithlive.com/raise-5000-homeless/#respond Wed, 25 Feb 2015 11:42:52 +0000 http://dougsmithlive.com/?p=9869 “If you don’t love the poor, then you don’t know what God’s done for you.” -Tim Keller For the third year in a row, I am running the full Pittsburgh Marathon for Light of Life Rescue Mission. Earlier this year, I had the opportunity to be on Pittsburgh Today Live to talk about my experience running […]

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“If you don’t love the poor, then you don’t know what God’s done for you.” -Tim Keller

For the third year in a row, I am running the full Pittsburgh Marathon for Light of Life Rescue Mission. Earlier this year, I had the opportunity to be on Pittsburgh Today Live to talk about my experience running for Light of Life. To watch that clip, click here

My goal is to raise $5,000. Our team’s goal is to raise over $100,000 for the Mission! I would like to ask you to support me as I train to run 26.2 miles in May. Every dollar counts!

If you are unfamiliar with Light of Life, we provide food, shelter, recovery, education, employment, and the hope of Christ to homeless of Pittsburgh. When you donate to Light of Life, that is what you help provide.

Our Mission: As a ministry of Jesus Christ, Light of Life will provide a home for the homeless and food for the hungry, and will build disciples for the Kingdom of God among the poor, addicted, abused and needy. (Read Matthew 25:35-46).

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In 2014, here were some of the things we accomplished as a ministry: 

  • We served over 120,000 meals
  • We provided 11,277 nights of emergency shelter
  • 671 unique men stayed in our emergency shelter
  • Every night, we provide shelter for around 155 people
  • We provided 828 Chapel services
  • We had over 511 people accept Christ
  • We had 27 men and women graduate from our long-term residential program
  • We provided Thanksgiving Dinner baskets to 423 families on the North Side
  • We provided just under 13,000 meals for Urban Impact’s after school programming

To donate, go here and click “Donate”. 

Here are two videos of our graduates sharing how their lives were impacted by Light of Life:

WTAE recently did a piece on our Emergency Shelter. They interviewed one of the men staying in our shelter. You can view that clip here: http://www.wtae.com/news/helping-the-homeless-survive-the-night-the-desperate-efforts-of-pittsbugh-shelters/31372434.

I have been on staff at Light of Life for 4 years. My life has been transformed as a result of working there. If you want to learn more about the impact it’s had on my life and what I’ve learned about the homeless, listen to this message I spoke last year by clicking here.

Would you consider donating today? To donate, go here and click “Donate”. 

If you would prefer to send a check, please mail it to P.O. Box 6823, Pittsburgh, PA 15212 to my attention. Make sure you write “Doug Smith Marathon” in the memo.

Thank you so much. If you would like to come down for a tour of Light of Life or get involved volunteering, please e-mail me at dougsmith@lightoflife.org or call me at 412-803-4161.

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Are You For Real? http://dougsmithlive.com/real/ http://dougsmithlive.com/real/#respond Tue, 24 Feb 2015 10:00:30 +0000 http://dougsmithlive.com/?p=9855 This week, I’m blogging about the lessons I learned at Jubilee Professional last Friday. This lesson came from Saleem Ghubril’s talk. Saleem is the Executive Director of the Pittsburgh Promise. They give inner city kids $40,000 to go to college if they maintain a certain GPA and graduate from high school. He told a story […]

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This week, I’m blogging about the lessons I learned at Jubilee Professional last Friday. This lesson came from Saleem Ghubril’s talk. Saleem is the Executive Director of the Pittsburgh Promise. They give inner city kids $40,000 to go to college if they maintain a certain GPA and graduate from high school.

He told a story of a time he was pumping gas on the North Side and some of the inner city school students came up to him and said, “Yo, Pittsburgh Promise… are you for real?”

Saleem responded, “Yea, we are for real.”

He went on to challenge the conference attendees by saying, “Every single day the world is asking the church, “Are you for real?” You say you love people, you say you care, you say you want to change the world, but are you for real?

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Tweet: “Every single day the world is asking the church, “Are you for real?”

That really challenged me to look at my life and evaluate whether or not I am for real. I say I want to help people, I want to help people grow, I want to connect people, I want to be a leader in our community, I want to be a great husband, a great friend, a great son, but what every one really wants to know is am I for real? 

I don’t know about you, but if someone asks me that, I want to be able to look right into their eyes and say, “Yea, I’m for real.”

Are you?

Thoughts?

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The Most Embarrassing Moments http://dougsmithlive.com/embarrassing-moments/ http://dougsmithlive.com/embarrassing-moments/#respond Mon, 23 Feb 2015 10:00:45 +0000 http://dougsmithlive.com/?p=9851 On Friday, I attended the Jubilee Professional conference. Saleem Ghubril, Executive Director of the Pittsburgh Promise, was the conferences final speaker. He was incredible. He told a story about a time he was sitting in a room with some award-winning artists. One of the children in the room asked the artists to share their most embarrassing moments. […]

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On Friday, I attended the Jubilee Professional conference. Saleem Ghubril, Executive Director of the Pittsburgh Promise, was the conferences final speaker. He was incredible.

He told a story about a time he was sitting in a room with some award-winning artists. One of the children in the room asked the artists to share their most embarrassing moments. Two of the artists shared about times that they were on stage and lost their voices.

The third artist said, “I’ve had plenty of moments like the other two, but for me, the most embarrassing moments are when I get on stage and I forget why.”

Saleem then challenged the audience by saying, “Don’t forget why you are on stage.”

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For me, this was a simple and yet challenging reminder that I am simply a steward of the influence that God has allowed me to have. Whatever “stage” I have been given, it is to be used to honor and glorify God and to build His Kingdom. That is why I am on stage. If I ever forget that, I will either make my “stage” all about me or not give the “stage” everything I’ve got.

Whatever stage God has given you in life, remember that it is a privilege, an honor, and a sacred responsibility.

Never take the platform you have been given for granted and don’t forget why you’re on stage. 

Thoughts?

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What I Have Been Reading Lately (Winter 2015) http://dougsmithlive.com/reading-winter-2015/ http://dougsmithlive.com/reading-winter-2015/#respond Thu, 19 Feb 2015 12:07:48 +0000 http://dougsmithlive.com/?p=9848 Here is a list of what I have been reading over the last few months:   The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg (Affiliate Link)  – This was probably the best book I’ve read in the last year. I could not put it down. This book will help you change bad habits and form habits that will […]

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Here is a list of what I have been reading over the last few months:

 

The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg (Affiliate Link)  – This was probably the best book I’ve read in the last year. I could not put it down. This book will help you change bad habits and form habits that will set you up to succeed in life.

The Hard Thing about the Hard Things by Ben Horowitz (Affiliate Link)  – Bill Hybels said this was the one of the most thought-provoking leadership books he has read in the last ten years. That recommendation alone was enough to make me read this book. This book really helped me have a better understanding of what it is actually like to be at the top of a large organization. It’s not easy. There is a lot at stake and you are responsible. You have to make extremely difficult decisions that will impact a lot of people. If you love leadership, you’ll love this book. **Warning: This is not a Christian leadership book, it is filled with bad language… if that will offend you, I don’t recommend reading it.

Money: Master the Game by Tony Robbins (Affiliate link) – This was Tony Robbins first book in 20 years! You have to want to read this book. It’s over 600 pages! For me, this book really helped me understand money at an entirely new level. I am a HUGE Dave Ramsey fan and follow his principles. If Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace principles are a 101 class, then this book will give you a 401 level education on money. The best part about it for me was that it was written simple enough that I could understand it. If you are serious about your finances, I recommend getting this book.

Hidden Power by Tommy Barnett – Tommy Barnett is incredible. He is probably most known for launching the Dream Center in downtown L.A. This book is all about following God’s dream for your life. It was great.

Execution: The Discipline of Getting things Done by Larry Bossidy and Ram Charan – The authors of this book argue that the difference between successful organizations and unsuccessful organizations is simply a matter of execution. This book will help you produce a culture of execution in your workplace.

Changes that Heal by Henry Cloud – This book changed my life two years ago. We are taking our small group through this book and workbook right now. It’s just as good the second time around. If you have not read this book and done the workbook, I cannot encourage you enough to do that now! I wrote an entire post on this books impact on my life. Read it here.

Die Empty by Todd Henry (affiliate link) – This book will challenge you to go after everything in your heart. You only get one life, make sure you leave everything you’ve got on the playing field!

Eat that Frog by Brian Tracy (affiliate link) – I read this book every January. We took our small group through it as well. This book will help you learn how to set goals, achieve those goals, and become as productive as possible. It’s a quick and easy read, but if you’ll apply the principles, it will change your life.

How to be a Star at Work by Robert Kelley (Affiliate link) – Robert Kelley is a professor at Carnegie Mellon. This is his best-selling business book. In the book, Robert teaches you 9 principles for becoming a star at work. I think a few of the principles will surprise you. Enjoy!

What books have you been reading lately? 

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The Proverbs 31 Man http://dougsmithlive.com/proverbs-31-man/ http://dougsmithlive.com/proverbs-31-man/#respond Mon, 16 Feb 2015 10:00:58 +0000 http://dougsmithlive.com/?p=9841 When people think about Proverbs 31, most think of the Proverbs 31 woman. I know I think about that a lot because I am married to one! However, one verse in the chapter that I believe most people overlook is Proverbs 31:23 which says,“Her husband is known at the city gates where he sits with the […]

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When people think about Proverbs 31, most think of the Proverbs 31 woman. I know I think about that a lot because I am married to one! However, one verse in the chapter that I believe most people overlook is Proverbs 31:23 which says,“Her husband is known at the city gates where he sits with the leaders of the land.”

There are two key lessons I take away from this verse:

1.) You have to be a Proverbs 31 man in order to Attract a Proverbs 31 Woman: When you read the description of a Proverbs 31 woman, you realize that women with those characteristics are pretty amazing. I believe that every man on the planet would love to be married to a Proverbs 31 woman. However the question isn’t, do you desire to marry a Proverbs 31 woman? The question is, are you willing to become the man who God needs you to become in order to attract and keep a Proverbs 31 woman? One of the most powerful principles that you can learn in life is that you attract who you are, not what you want. If you want a Proverbs 31 woman, start becoming the man God created you to be!

2.) Godly Men are Called to be well-known Leaders in their City - I truly believe that God wants us to be in positions of influence in our cities so we can influence our regions for Christ. However, in order for this to happen, I believe that we need to have our personal lives in order first. If we are doing our jobs as Godly fathers and husbands, then God can open up doors for us to be Godly leaders in our cities.

In summary, Proverbs 31 women need us to be Proverbs 31 men and in order to be Proverbs 31 men, we need Proverbs 31 women.

Do everything you can today to become Proverbs 31 men and women! 

Invitation: If you’re a man living in Pittsburgh reading this, there are 3 upcoming events that I would HIGHLY encourage you to attend in order to learn more about becoming the man God created you to be. The events are: For Men Only, Man-Up Pittsburgh, and Promise Keepers.

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Your Presence Matters http://dougsmithlive.com/presence-matters/ http://dougsmithlive.com/presence-matters/#respond Thu, 12 Feb 2015 11:19:36 +0000 http://dougsmithlive.com/?p=9831 Last week I attended a very difficult viewing and funeral. When I was approaching the woman who was mourning, I had no clue what to say or what to do. When I got to her, she looked up at me and smile, stuck out her fist to give me a fist bump and said, “I […]

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Last week I attended a very difficult viewing and funeral. When I was approaching the woman who was mourning, I had no clue what to say or what to do. When I got to her, she looked up at me and smile, stuck out her fist to give me a fist bump and said, “I love you.” Then she gave me a big hug.

In that moment, I realized that my presence matters.

This past weekend, I was meeting with a young leader and he told me that one of the biggest ways I’ve impacted his life was when I had him over for an afternoon just to hang out. We made lunch, watched the World Cup, and went to the pool. He told me that just getting to spend time with me and to see what I am like when I am at home made a huge impact on him.

Once again I was reminded that my presence matters.

As I’ve reflected on those two experiences, I looked back in my own life and realized that the people that made the biggest impact on my life didn’t do it through their words or actions (although that certainly helped as well), they impacted me by showing up and being present in my life.

I want you to know that your presence in people’s lives matters a lot more than you think it does. You may not think that you are making an impact in people’s lives, but you are.

Somebody’s life would be a little bit less than it is right now without your presence in their life. Every time you are present with someone, you are making a difference in their life.

I want to challenge you to continually be present in the lives of others, regardless of how you feel and regardless of whether or not you know what to say or do when you’re with them. Do you want to be a world changer? Then show up in people’s lives! 

  • Be present for people when they are going through a difficult time. It matters.
  • Be present with people when you are with them. It matters.
  • Be present at home with your family. It matters.
  • Be present with your team at work. It matters.

I’m convinced that the people who make the biggest impact in this world are the people who keep showing up and being present with the people in their lives.

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It Is Good to Get Caught http://dougsmithlive.com/gettingcaught/ http://dougsmithlive.com/gettingcaught/#respond Tue, 10 Feb 2015 10:00:39 +0000 http://dougsmithlive.com/?p=9824 I recently wrote about the prayer I love and hate to pray. The prayer is, “God, develop me as quickly and as solidly as possible.” One reason I hate it is because if I mean it, then I know God will answer it and I know that it means that I am going to have […]

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I recently wrote about the prayer I love and hate to pray. The prayer is, “God, develop me as quickly and as solidly as possible.” One reason I hate it is because if I mean it, then I know God will answer it and I know that it means that I am going to have to deal with issues in my life.

Recently, God answered that prayer once again in my life. The issue: dealing with frustration and avoiding conflict. I have an unhealthy pattern in my life of holding my frustration with others in, becoming bitter and critical of them, and then talking to others about them without ever going to them and expressing my frustration.

Without telling the entire story, I recently “got caught” doing this and was forced to have some very difficult conversations with the person I was frustrated with. If I had learned how to deal with this issue in a healthy way, I would have avoided hurting this person, avoided having to have a difficult conversation, and would not have spent weeks of my life frustrated, bitter, and critical.

I hated the way that I got forced into dealing with the issue (getting caught).  I wish I would have handled it in a healthy way from the beginning. However, I am extremely grateful that I got forced into dealing with a destructive pattern in my life.

In other words, I am glad I got caught because I knew what I was doing was wrong, but I did not know how to deal with it, so I kept ignoring it. Ignoring the issue made me miserable and it was holding me back from growth that God wants me to experience.

Because I was forced to deal with this issue, I dealt with it. While it was painful to realize I hurt people and lost trust, in the end, I felt so relieved. I was actually excited because I know God is dealing with this issue in my life so I can be a better person, employee, husband, and friend. I know that as I continue to work on this issue, the relationships I hurt will be restored and I will gain back the trust that I lost.

2 Corinthians 7:10 says, “For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.”

I used to think that getting caught or being forced to deal with issues was horrible because, to be honest, I got caught and really did not want to deal with what I had done!

However, I’ve found that as a Christian, if you’re following God and committed to being all that He created you to be, you actually get to a place where you look forward to dealing with the issues in your life because you know when you do, you’ll be more like Him and more of the person you were created to be.

My question for you is: What issues in your life do you just need to throw on table and deal with?

The question isn’t whether or not you’re going to have to deal with the issue. The question, when are you going to deal with the issue? If you deal with it now, you’ll save yourself a lot of pain and frustration.

Andy Stanley said this about dealing with issues: “Do you know what the best way to deal with a 500 pound gorilla in a cage is? You have to swing open the door and face it head on.

That is how we have to face the issues in our life. So whatever issue you’re struggling with, swing open the door and face it head on. You won’t regret it.

Bonus resource: 

If you’re like me, and struggle with conflict and dealing with your frustration in a healthy way, here is a great message that helped me by Rick Warren, “Learn How to Resolve Conflict and Restore Relationships.” I hope this post added value to your life!

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