In this message, I talked about what I believe is one of the most important character qualities we can develop: The ability to handle correction. If you will master this quality, you will grow and develop to your maximum potential and you will protect yourself from what could be some of your greatest regrets. Listen to the message and then continually ask yourself the questions at the end of the notes.
The Most Important Character Quality You Can Develop
13 But the one who endures to the end **will be saved. Matthew 24:1
16 You didn’t choose me. I chose you. **I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruit, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name. -John 15:1
2% of Christian leaders make it to the end
What is this Quality? The ability to receive correction.
5 And have you forgotten the encouraging words God spoke to you as his children?[d] He said,“My child,[e] don’t make light of the Lord’s discipline, and don’t give up when he corrects you. For the Lord disciplines those he loves and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.”[f]
7 As you endure this divine discipline, remember that God is treating you as his own children. Who ever heard of a child who is never disciplined by its father? 8 If God doesn’t discipline you as he does all of his children, it means that you are illegitimate and are not really his children at all. 9 Since we respected our earthly fathers who disciplined us, shouldn’t we submit even more to the discipline of the Father of our spirits, and live forever?[g]
10 For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always good for us, so that we might share in his holiness. 11 No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way. ~Hebrews 12:5-11
Revelation 3:19 – 19 I correct and discipline everyone I love. So be diligent and turn from your indifference.
If you’re not being corrected, I question if you’re in the family!
God’s love is not a pampering love, God’s love is a perfecting love! – James MacDonald
What does the Bible say about correction?
People who accept discipline are on the pathway to life, but those who ignore correction will go astray. -Proverbs 10:17
To learn, you must love discipline; it is stupid to hate correction. -Proverbs 12:1
A wise child accepts a parent’s discipline; a mocker refuses to listen to correction. -Proverbs 13:1
If you ignore criticism, you will end in poverty and disgrace; if you accept correction, you will be honored. -Proverbs 13:18
Proverbs 15:5 a fool despises a parent’s discipline; whoever learns from correction is wise.
Whoever abandons the right path will be severely disciplined; whoever hates correction will die. Proverbs 15:10
If you reject discipline, you only harm yourself; but if you listen to correction, you grow in understanding. -Proverbs 15:32
Think about it: Just as a parent disciplines a child, the Lord your God disciplines you for your own good. -Deuteronomy 8:5
Job 5:17-18 – But consider the joy of those corrected by God! Do not despise the discipline of the Almighty when you sin. For though He wounds, He also bandages, He strikes, but his hands also heal.”
Fear of the Lord is the foundation of true knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline. -Proverbs 1:7
The Bible calls someone who hates correction a fool… let’s look at some of the characteristics of fools:
What the bible says about fools:
• Fools despise wisdom and discipline
• Fools are destroyed for their lack of common sense
• Fools have fun doing wrong
• The fool will be a servant to the wise
• Fools think they need no advice
• The fool gets mad easily
• Fools don’t even think before they do something and brag about it!
• Don’t hang out with fools, you won’t find knowledge there!
• Fools deceive themselves
• Wisdom is never found among fools
• A fool despises a parent’s discipline
• Fools cannot give good advice
• Eloquent speech is not fitting for a fool… (people swearing sound like idiots)
• Fools bring grief to their parents
• People ruin their own lives by their own foolishness, then are mad at God!
• Fools only learn from punishment
• As a dog eats it’s puke, so a fool returns to his sin
• Fools won’t turn from their ways in order to attain their dreams
What does it look like when someone refuses to accept correction?
But God says to the wicked:“Why bother reciting my decrees and pretending to obey my covenant? 17 For you refuse my discipline and treat my words like trash. 18 When you see thieves, you approve of them, and you spend your time with adulterers. -Psalm 50:16-18
The Outcome of being a Fool and Not Taking Correction:
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline! If only I had not ignored all the warnings! 13 Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers? Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors? -Proverbs 5:11-13
“Remember one act of stupidity can destroy what years of faithfulness has built.” -Gerald Brooks
What Correction Looks like:
How Correction should work in your life: Like flying an airplane – At first there may be some MAJOR changes in adjustment, but usually it’s small adjustments all around the way. By the way if they are major, they are probably saving your life.
How Correction will Come:
1.) God – Through His Spirit and through His Word
**God is the architect of your growth
A lot of you want to do great things for God but you’re not willing to go through the uncomfortableness that comes with discipline and correction!How do you deal with correction?
2.) Self Examination -Self-Evaluation
I Corinthians 11:31-32 – 31 But if we would examine ourselves, we would not be judged by God in this way. 32 Yet when we are judged by the Lord, we are being disciplined so that we will not be condemned along with the world.
3.) Your Parents and/or Spouses –
6 Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord,[a] for this is the right thing to do. 2 “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: 3 If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.” -Ephesians 6:1-3
4.) Spiritual Mentors
Hebrews 13:7 –Obey your spiritual leaders, and do what they say. Their work is to watch over your souls, and they are accountable to God. Give them reason to do this with joy and not with sorrow. That would certainly not be for your benefit.
5.) Authority figures –
13 All of you must be willing to obey completely those who rule over you. There are no authorities except the ones God has chosen. Those who now rule have been chosen by God.2 So when you oppose the authorities, you are opposing those whom God has appointed. Those who do that will be judged. -Romans 13:1
6.) Friends – Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17
What to do when Correction Comes:
1.) See it as a gift!
CORRECTION and the Ability to Repent IS A GIFT!
Job 5:17-18 – But consider the joy of those corrected by God!
The more mature you are in Christ, the more you know this is true and the more you want God’s truth and correction in your life
Prayer: God help me develop as quickly and as solidly as possible.
**Dr. Grassingar: 10 Year vision – Because of the joy set before me, I decided to love correction, I don’t love it in the moment, but I recognize that it’s going to mke me into the person God called me to be . . . Same thing no
When you understand that life is a test, you realize that nothing is insignificant in your life. Even the smallest incident has significance for your character development. Every day is an important day, and every second is a growth opportunity to deepen your character, to demonstrate love, or to depend on God. -Rick Warren
1.) How would you rate yourself on your ability to receive correction?
2.) When was the last time you were corrected? How did you respond?
3.) What areas of your life have God and others been speaking to you about but you’ve been ignoring?
4.) Have you shut people who love you out of your life because you wouldn’t listen to their correction?
5.) What do you need to admit, quit, and forget tonight?
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