Learning to Lead Podcast: Winning with People

Learning to Lead May 2013: Winning with People: In this episode, my goal is to help you become better at connecting and relating with people. I hope this lesson adds value to your life and your relationships.

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Three books you need to get: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, Winning with People by John Maxwell, and 25 Ways to Win with People by John Maxwell

The most important single ingredient in the formula for success is knowing how to get along with people. ~Theodore Roosevelt

I will pay more for the ability to deal with people before any other ability under the sun. ~John D. Rockefeller

 Assumptions I make when Connecting with People: 

1.) Everybody is HUMAN “There are no important people”

2.) Everybody Needs Encouragement 

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” ― Leo Buscaglia

 3.) Everyone Has a Dream in Their Heart

4.) Everyone Wants to Talk About Themselves 

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

5.)  Everybody longs to be Loved, Wanted, Liked, and Accepted 

6.) Everybody Wants to be a Part of and Contribute to Something Big 

7.) Everybody has a Good Heart 

8.) Everybody Has a Normal Life 

Rules for Winning with People: 

1.) Become Friends With Yourself 

2.) Follow the Golden Rule – Do unto others as you would want done to you.

“You can get everything you want in life, IF you just help enough other people get what they want first.” -Zig Ziglar

Everyday, look at your calendar and ask, “Who can I add value to today?” When you go to bed, ask yourself, “Who did I add value to today?”

3.) Find the Key to Their Heart – What do they dream about? What do they sing about? What do they cry about?

4.) Find Common Ground – You can find something in common with almost anyone!

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” ― C.S. Lewis

5.) Ask a Lot Questions and LISTEN

6.) Connect with People Often 

7.) Live an Interesting Life! 

8.) Be a FUN Person to be Around 

9.) Study and Mimic People who are Good with People 

10.) Celebrate Other People’s Experiences, Don’t Brag About Your Own 

“If you want enemies, excel your friends; but if you want friends, let your friends excel you.”

As Lord Chesterfield said to his son: Be wiser than other people if you can; but do not tell them so….

11.) Find Ways to Honor People 

12.) Realize You Won’t Connect with Everybody

13.) Don’t Have Unrealistic Expectations of Others 

“You can get everything you want in life, IF you just help enough other people get what they want first.” -Zig Ziglar

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