Speak into My Soul

“In the end, people appreciate honest criticism, far more than flattery.” -Proverbs 28:23

I love meeting people for coffee or a meal. I try to meet with successful people as often as I can. As part of this practice, I collect questions to ask people when I meet with them. I came along a request followed by a few questions that I am starting to ask when I meet with people.

I must preface, this request isn’t for someone who you are meeting for the first or second time. This is a request for someone who knows you pretty well and you feel comfortable with.

The request: Speak into my soul.

The questions:

  • What do I need to hear that I don’t want to hear?
  • Is there any thing you have always wanted to tell me? 
  • What are my blind spots?
  • What is one area I need to grow in?

This request takes some security! If you make yourself vulnerable with another secure person, they may tell you some things you don’t want to hear. Be secure enough to listen.

Andy Stanley said, “Leaders who refuse to listen will eventually be surrounded by people who have nothing significant to say.”

The temptation will be to ask the people that we know will flatter us instead of giving it to us straight. Don’t give into that temptation. It won’t get you anywhere in life. Surround yourself with people who will value the friend over the friendship. 

Be willing to listen. Don’t defend what someone says to you. Take it home with you, take it to God, and ask Him to help you recognize what is true about what they said and what you need to change.

Bottom line: Surround yourself with people who will speak into your soul, and give them permission to do just that!

Who are 3 people you could meet with in the next month and ask them to speak into your soul?




2 Responses

    1. Bean! I am great! When are you coming back for another visit? You’ve spoken into my life as well! Nothing like the honesty of the Bean! Your life speaks more than words ever could! Thanks for being obedient to God! We miss you so much! Come back!

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