How to Deal with Stupid Frustrations & Distractions

Last week, I had the privilege of attending the Dream Center Conference. Here is my recap of the conference. One of my favorite sessions was Bishop Dale Bronner. In his session, he said something that I thought was extremely significant. He said, “The devil is really after your hope. If he can get your hope, you won’t be able to carry out what God put in your heart.”

He went on to say that one of the main way he steals our hope is by frustrating us. If he can frustrate us, we won’t be able to focus on God or on what we’re supposed to be focused on.

He said that’s why people talk trash in sports. If they can get their opponent frustrated, they will be distracted and they won’t be able to focus on their strategy or what they’re supposed to be doing. I saw that happen several times in the Super Bowl on Sunday.


I remember listening to an interview with Arnold Schwarzenegger where someone asked him what made him so much more confident than the other bodybuilders. He said he would get inside their heads. He would see them at the gym and say things like, “You’re looking fat.” or “It looks like you’ve gained some water weight.”

He said they’d brush it off initially, but then he’d see them start to look in the mirror and get conscious about how they look. What he said to them wasn’t even true, but it got them frustrated and distracted enough that they got off track.

I see this happen all the time in my life and in the lives of others. In fact, I’m writing this because too often I get frustrated by the thoughts that come to me either from my own mind, from the enemy, or from people. When I get frustrated, I literally get paralyzed with fear and it’s so easy for me to get off track. In fact, this happened when I woke up this morning!

I’ve determined that if we are going to complete God’s purpose for our lives, then we have to get good at dealing with frustration and deception.

In Mark 4:1-20, Jesus tells a parable about 4 kinds of people who start pursuing God’s purpose for their lives. Three out of the four people end up falling away from God’s purpose for their lives because of frustrations and distractions.

In his session, Dale went on to say that, “Every frustration is rooted in deception.”

[shareable cite=”Dale Bronner”]’Every frustration is rooted in deception.’ [/shareable]

While I haven’t learned how to deal with frustrations perfectly, this is an area I’m continually growing in. Here are some things I have found that have helped:

1.) Do Something with the Frustration – Too often, when we get frustrated, we tend to hold our frustrations in and not do anything with them other than let them build within us. I’m learning more and more that the best thing I can do when I am getting frustrated and distracted is to journal about it and then tell someone. This morning, Laura came down and asked how I was doing, I said not great… I’m getting attacked. She said, “With what thoughts?” I told her what was distracting me. She said, “Those are all lies and all ridiculous. What does God say?” I started speaking the truth about what God says and I felt better almost immediately. In the past I would have let that beat me up all day! If you’re feeling frustrated and distracted, talk to someone about it and let them encourage you!

2.) Recognize the Frustration for what it is: Deception – So often, the things that distract us are simply deceptions from the enemy. Write down everything bothering you in your journal and evaluate it. Recognize how much of what you’re writing are straight up lies. Once you recognize the frustration for what it is, it’s easy to get back on track!

3.) Spend time with God – This should be obvious, but in my experience it’s not! Again, the entire point of getting us frustrated is so we can’t focus on what we should obviously be focused on. I’m grateful that when I get frustrated, Laura will usually say, “Did you spend time with God?” Most of the time my answer is, “Nope.” Then she’ll say, “Go do it!”. Once I spend time with Him, all the frustrations and distractions seem to disappear in light of who He is and what He says.

4.) Get back to Work! – Remember, the main reason satan tries to frustrate us is to distract us from pursuing our purpose. Learn to say what Nehemiah said when distraction comes your way, say,  I knew they were scheming to hurt me so I sent messengers back with this: “I’m doing a great work; I can’t come down. Why should the work come to a standstill just so I can come down to see you?” (Nehemiah 6:2-3). The truth is, God has a great work for you to do. Don’t let stupid frustrations distract you from doing that great work. Forget the frustrations, distractions, and lies. Get back to work!

Thoughts? Comment below!


  • What do you do when you find yourself getting frustrated?
  • What type of things typically frustrate you?
  • What can you do differently next time frustrations and distractions come your way?
  • Do you have any other tips for us when it comes to dealing with frustrations? Comment below!

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